Have you ever seen a man approach a woman, tell her he thinks she’s got a nice rack, and achieve success? Unlikely. That usually earns you a slap in the face and the dreaded embarrassment of rejection. You might see it as a compliment, but she will usually see you as a pig. So stay classy with your first words and compliments.
To use the direct approach it takes a lot of guts. It’s the method you use when you want to be clear about your intentions, and you don’t want to play any games. But you want to be sure to steer clear of appearing aggressive as you make a beeline towards your target - you don’t want to seem like a predator out to get his prey. Instead, make eye contact with your lady if you can, and hold her gaze slightly longer than is natural, without veering into the “staring” category. When she looks available to be approached it’s time to make your move.
Walk directly towards your lady. Don’t pretend you’re refilling your water, don’t head for the trash can near her. Aim for her. Keep your eyes on her as you approach as you would anyone else you were looking to talk to. You want her to know she’s who you’re looking for. Keep your pace normal and casual.
When you meet her there’s a variety of opening lines that aren’t cheesy or overplayed that you can use:
“Hi, my name is Andrew and I think you’re beautiful. I’d like to take you out sometime.”
“Hey, my name is Andrew and I’ve noticed you in here a few times. What’s your name?”
“Hi, I just noticed you from across the room and I just wanted to let you know I think you’re beautiful.”
Nothing original, nothing new, but always effective. Your lady will appreciate the sincerity in the basic compliment and likes to know your intentions in approaching her right off the bat.
Hopefully you’ve talked casually with humans before and can take it from there. If not, let me know and I’ll help you learn how to carry on a conversation naturally. For the rest of you, during this conversation make sure you ask her for her number, or ask her out, something, at some point before the conversation ends. For the very confident, sometimes a guy can leave without doing that, leaving the girl bewildered as to why he didn’t ask. That’s fine if you know you’re going to see her again and would like to draw out the process before actually asking her out. For the typical person, maybe you should avoid that sometimes flirtatious tactic. It’s risky. You might only have one shot to arrange to see your lady again.
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So you’ve asked her if she’d like to have dinner with you on Friday. You’re anxiously waiting for her answer with bated breath. What if she doesn’t want to? What if she thinks I’m hideous??? What if she’s MARRIED?! What do I say if she says no? What do I say if she says YES?!
Then she responds. If she says yes, you can breathe a sigh of relief. You’re in. Wine and dine her, and treat her like princess.
If she says no, don’t let it get you down. Girls often have a hard time speaking their minds so when she gives you a reason it doesn’t usually mean what it sounds like. Later I’ll explain girl talk. But if she says no (maybe, or I can’t this weekend are not “no”) then smile at her, thank her for her time, and make your way out. At this point you’re ending it like a job interview. Oh well. Move on to the attractive girl you saw at the store earlier. If she doesn’t want to go or someone else already has a claim to her, then it is no reflection on your character. There’s someone who does want to go with you so pick yourself up and keep going. You’ll find her. You only have to win once.
