Dress and Appearance - Men

Hey everybody! I’m Weston, your own personal flirting coach. I am Kim’s husband, and I’ve got some great tips for you guys out there that want to increase your chances with the ladies. A couple of years ago I moved across the country and started my dating life all over. When I moved to my new home, my hair was shaggy and I hadn’t shaved for a week. I wore t-shirts, tennis shoes, a hoodie, and sunglasses nearly constantly. I carried this un-kept and un-caring look around with me for six long months and had very little success dating. I couldn’t figure out what it was about me that was not attracting women, because I felt that I was a funny, nice guy. But let’s face it folks—your first impression matters! One Saturday afternoon, with some help from some friends, I looked in the mirror and it dawned on me like a ton of bricks…..My appearance screamed “I DON’T CARE HOW I LOOK AND I HAVE NO AMBITIONS IN LIFE!!”  

Whether that was true or not, that’s what my image portrayed to everyone that laid eyes on me. Ladies want someone they can show off, someone that looks like he’s going somewhere in life. I really wanted to be a desirable man among the women in my city, and as ZZ Top says, “Every girl is crazy about a sharp dressed man.” So I decided to put those lyrics to the test and see what happened. I went directly to the nearest Great Clips, and I lost the shaggy hair and scruff on my face. I ended up getting a very clean, professional-looking haircut. Afterwards I went to a nearby store and purchased my first ever tub of hair gel. I then went back to my apartment and began searching through my wardrobe, when I realized most of my clothes were logo-style t-shirts and old baggy jeans. So I decided that I needed to take a trip to the store and overhaul my wardrobe. I bought a different style of jeans than I usually do, you know, jeans that actually fit. I then traded in my tennis shoes for some nice and casual, but professional looking footwear. After I took a shower, styled my hair, and put on one of my new outfits, I looked into the mirror and I instantly felt a surge of confidence come over me! I felt like a new man! I looked like a million dollars and I felt like it too!

That night I went to a party at a friend’s house, and from the moment I walked in the door, (I kid you not) I was receiving immediate attention. Women were flirting with me like crazy. I had many attractive women tell me how good I looked and that I looked like a different person. I was told several times how attractive I looked. I was literally shocked by all of the attention that I was receiving, and from that night on I was totally hooked on having a clean, sharp-looking appearance. My only regret was not having made this change years ago! The best thing about it is that it didn’t take a million dollars or a lot of effort. All it takes is the determination to look good, even if you’re on a budget and can’t afford designer clothes. The look-nice look can be achieved even by shopping at thrift stores and used clothing stores like Plato’s Closet, which I did in the above instance.

Some girls may like the rugged, mountain-man look but if most of your face is covered by hair and sunglasses it’s hard for a girl to see your assets. Maybe you’re not feeling great about your strengths, but you were created in your own unique way, and that might be just the look the woman of your dreams wants. In fact, multiple people are searching for a look just like yours. And more importantly, women are more interested in who you are at your core than what’s on the outside. That’s where the confidence comes in.   

Tip: “Dress for success!” If you want to be successful in dating, then you NEED to dress like you’re going to be successful (from head-to-toe). Women love a sexy-smelling, sharp-dressed man because it exhibits confidence…..and confidence gets women!

So, now that I’ve stressed the importance of putting an effort into your appearance and explained its effect in my life, let’s discuss how to do this in your own life. Without changing who you are, how do you physically attract a girl? It depends on the type of girl you’re trying to attract! In general:

How to attract a girl:

1. Shower

2. Put on deodorant

3. Brush your teeth

4. Use chapstick regularly

5. Put on cologne or masculine-smelling lotion (Be cautious with this, you don’t want to overdo it. It won’t impress a girl if you’re dripping with axe body spray. Keep it subtle, she’ll notice.)

6. Keep your hair, both on your head and face, trimmed and neat. Make it look like you put some effort into making it look nice.

7. Pick an outfit that matches and looks nice (long pants usually look better than shorts, and button-ups are typically nicer than a t-shirt. And when choosing jeans a dark wash looks better than a light wash. And your belt and shoes should match.)

8. Pick an outfit that fits you well. Your pants should be creasing around your ankle, but not pooling and should fit around the hips and waist.

9. Work out – lifting weights AND endurance activities

What other qualities would make you more attractive to women?